Did You Know It's Okay If It's "All in Your Head?"

Rain by ~JureDolzan

Sometimes, honesty can be a little bit painful. You put just a little too much of yourself out there. I think it's because we know that there are people who judge harshly and quickly, and we care perhaps a little to much about the opinions of others.

Now, really, that's all non-sense. To assume that anyone could understand us completely, and so accurately judge who we are and why we do what we do is silly. The best we're hoping for is that they guess well of us. But no matter who we are and how we present ourselves, everyone is still guessing, and we really can't control what they think.

So worrying about what others may or may not think of you is worrying about something that is completely outside of your control, and has so much more to to with the person judging than it has to do with the person being judged.

Non-sense!

But still, there it is.

Why bring this up? I'm still waiting for the good doctors to ask me if, maybe, just maybe-the-littlest-please-don't-hate-me-bit could the pain in my leg be more accurately described and being in my head. I've read over psychology and neurology, and a few other -ologies in my day. A pain with no other indicator which doesn't respond to OTC pain-meds?

But they won't ask. I don't blame them. In my own tactless way, I've trod on toes by suggesting a . . . mental concern . . . and then had my head promptly torn off by the rampaging offended person.

Which brings me to my final topic for this Percacet inspired post:

Did you know it's okay if you have depression? Did you know that doesn't mean that you're weak, or emo, or "too negative?" Did you know that you can be a good, loving, fun person, and still have an anxiety disorder? Did you know that it's okay if you aren't happy? It doesn't mean that you're ungrateful or shallow, or whiny, or selfish? It just means you aren't happy.

People, in my experience are afraid to confront the fact they may have a "mental problem." And that's a problem. Because in all my studying I've come to a conclusion: either the problem is because of chemical neurological issues which you can't learn how to address or control until after you understand them, or the problem is a complication of thought-habits which effect your mental health/chemical neurological profile, and you can't address or control them until you face the issues.

We're all just living our lives over here. There may be some people who have it all together. And good for them! They aren't the rest (the vast majority) of us. Learning to be the best person and live the best life is an on-going process where many mistakes will be made, and many dead ends will be hit, and many new things will have to be addressed. If you do have a mental issue, then that is just a new problem to fix, or a sign that there is something in your life that needs some work and perspective. Denying it, and being angry at the thought that there's something "wrong" with you is ridiculous--you aren't perfect. No one is. It's especially hurtful to pretend you are if it means you refuse to try and fix the problem.

(And before I go around assuming the pain is "in my head" I'll have to get with a doctor and make sure there isn't another explanation. 'Cause if it is all from my head . . . dang. I have a wicked powerful brain.)